security: remediate all P0-P2 audit findings (12 tasks)

P0 fixes:
- WebSocket origin checking (reject untrusted origins)
- WS session token moved from URL query param to first message frame
- WebAuthn login cookie now uses Secure flag via shared SetSessionCookie
- PostgreSQL sslmode configurable via POSTGRES_SSLMODE env (default: require)
- Fixed DatabaseDSN to use real password instead of masked placeholder

P1 fixes:
- Per-IP rate limiting middleware (auth: 5 req/s, invites: 2 req/s)
- Security headers on all responses (CSP, X-Frame-Options, nosniff, etc.)
- WS broadcasts scoped to server members (prevents cross-server data leak)
- Webhook tokens stored as SHA-256 hashes (not plaintext)

P2 fixes:
- CSRF protection via Origin header validation on state-changing requests
- MANAGE_CHANNELS permission enforced on channel update/delete
- Upload validation: 25MB limit, extension allowlist, server-side MIME check
- File serve: path traversal protection + Content-Disposition: attachment

Files: 23 changed, +499/-100. Builds clean (go build, go vet, npm build).
Zero CVEs (govulncheck, npm audit).

internal/auth/cookie.go

@@ -0,0 +1,20 @@
+package auth
+
+import (
+	"net/http"
+	"time"
+)
+
+// SetSessionCookie writes the session cookie with secure defaults.
+// Shared by password login, registration, and WebAuthn login.
+func SetSessionCookie(w http.ResponseWriter, cookieName, token string, duration time.Duration) {
+	http.SetCookie(w, &http.Cookie{
+		Name:     cookieName,
+		Value:    token,
+		Path:     "/",
+		HttpOnly: true,
+		Secure:   true,
+		SameSite: http.SameSiteStrictMode,
+		MaxAge:   int(duration.Seconds()),
+	})
+}